The Dynamics of Time Management: Using different techniques of time management for success in your daily endeavors.

In essence time management is about knowing all that you have to do and how much time you have available to do it and fit it into a schedule, and follow it so that you get the results that are desired. How do you go about this you might ask? Well first of all you have to organize your schedule, making the best use of limited time, and creating a realistic plan for accomplishing everything on you’re to do list.


Well the point being made here, is to use your time wisely. Tracking your time weekly, monthly, etc. Once you know how many hours have to work with on a daily to weekly basis you’re off to a good start. Now if you get like seven hours of sleep every night then you have about 119 hours a week to form into a schedule (This will include all daily activities). Now in order for this to really work you must at all cost avoid “PROCRASTINATION” (you know what I’m talking about), “I can always do it later, I have enough time”, “Just ten more minutes then I will get up and do it”. The list goes on forever as we all know, but sometimes we just can’t be honest about it with ourselves.


 Planning Ahead:

It’s all about priorities when it comes to managing your time. You can use a monthly calendar to help you allocate your time on your weekly schedule at the beginning of each quarter, and spend about an hour with your calendar to enter all important dates and deadlines, than estimate the time needed to prepare for them. At the start of each week, transfer important items from your calendar to your weekly schedule. This will help to avoid the things that might otherwise sneak up on you. You can also make use of the calendar on your computer or cell phone, in which you can set alerts and reminders.

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By using these elements as well as other techniques you should be able to improve on your management of time in almost all areas of your life. The key is to stick to your schedule and you should be able to navigate your daily and weekly activities with relative ease. Now you don’t have to be a slave to your schedule, there is always room to adjust, and add new things in and around it. And one of the most important things, is always plan for down time to rest and renew yourself which should be included in all of your time management scheduling.


Now that we have explored some of the dynamics of time management, we should be able to follow some of these guidelines to create a custom daily, weekly and monthly schedule to use our time more efficiently. With just a little bit of effort I feel that we all can take advantage of these tools and live a more stress free life while going about our daily activities without running ourselves around in circles and saying, “Where does all the time go”? We all have heard the saying “Time waits for no one”, however we can make time work for us.

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Counseling Services, State University of New York at Buffalo (Time Management)

Reber, Deborah (2008). Chill: Stress-Reducing Techniques for a More Balanced, Peaceful You.

Taking Action, Time Management p28. (Simon Pulse, New York. London, Toronto, Sidney)




She Said: by Alexis Alexander


SEXY MEANS BUSINESS: by Alexis Alexander

So yes an elegant man is appreciated in the work force but who said you can’t be that sexy, classy, fun boss chick that companies run to, to help make millions?? Being sexy in the workplace is a very controversial subject and the way women have been portrayed in advertising has transitioned drastically over the decades. What does sex have to do with it? Well, since the beginning of time companies have used sex as a marketing tactic to advertise and generate more sales in the 1890’s.


In 1942, Rosie the Riveter, was one of the first women used as the classic icon behind the campaign to recruit women to the workforce during World War II.


These ads were run by J. Walter Thompson who believed the sex sells theory in advertisement and marketing. Sex in advertising has been claimed as the reason behind increased consumer interest and sales. This technique is designed to arouse the interest in a particular product, service or brand according to one of the most professional online resources “The Balance” which is known for empowering and educating individuals to earn more, spend smarter, invest well and build a more secure future. Such companies like L’oreal, Victoria Secret, and even Fashion Nova use beautiful women to help sell products. Not only is it more appealing but it catches the eye of potential customers.

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Public figure Celebrities like Tyra Banks, Kim Kardashian and Beyonce are used to model clothes, jewelry, and beauty products to help increase sells. Our daily news stations use beautiful news reporters like Demetria Obilor who endured body shaming to attract viewers. Body shaming has been going on for decades and it’s just now being accepted in our society today.

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Now we have plus size models posing on the cover of Sports Illustration and commercial ads all over the world. We also have different Social media platforms who pay models such as Instagram models to attract people to Instagram but yet there’s still so much controversy. . . In a male dominated industry Women are looked down upon for being too sexy, being curvy or for showing too much skin however the bashing isn’t coming from majority of the men, it’s coming from the women. Models and strippers are bashed because of their profession and aren’t taking as seriously as they should.

No profession is easy. It’s not easy to wear heels for hours , stay trendy, work odd hours, travel to different places all over the world, take care of you hair , skin and nails meanwhile trying accommodate deadlines and making out time to eat healthy and work out at their gym. Just because you’re sexy doesn’t mean you’re less worthy or uneducated. It’s about using what God has blessed you with to get what you want and if its sells; so why not!

Being sexy doesn’t always mean you have to have sex. Sexy women and men are always good to look at and helps to make life more interesting. If everyone was dressed in business suits or worked at an office, life wouldn’t be as interesting as it is today because everyone would look and dress the same. There’s no fun in that, by the way; there’s still women who wear the business suits and look sexy in them and even they too are given the side eye at work.

According to the Huffington Post, former Love and Hip-Hop Reality Star turned American rapper Cardi B has a lot to say when it comes to women and their sexuality. According to Cardi B and the “Me Too” movement doesn’t support female hip hop artists or video vixens, after all they too are women in the entertainment industry. She talks about the disrespect that female artist and models face in the male dominated hip hop industry. She claims that if it wasn’t for models being featured in music videos a lot of these rappers wouldn’t have nice quality videos and it’s the sexy women that make the video more appealing.

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So why do people disrespect and bash sexy women again?? This is the reason why my team and I covered the “Million Women March,” in 2017 in Washington DC right after Donald Trump’s Inauguration. It appeared to many people that our president didn’t have women’s best interest after the infamous recording Hollywood access released about Trumps shockingly admitting to his attempt to seduce a married women and indicated how he might kiss a woman that him and former President Bush were about to meet. He added “I don’t even wait. And when you’re a star, they let you do it ,you can do anything… grab them by the pussy.”

As I interviewed women who came to march from all over the country, they expressed how they felt discriminated due to their sex. I heard so many stories that almost made me cry, but as women we have learned to be tough and stand tall no matter the circumstances. Like I mentioned previously, a woman with crazy sex appeal doesn’t make you a whore, it’s is quite a job that most women struggle to maintain.

Even though few don’t want to admit that they secretly admire these strong and “Sexy” women. It costs to stay on top of your sex appeal which includes hair, nails, skin treatments, makeup, beauty products, dieting, going to the gym, photo shoots, keeping up with the latest trends, attending events and sometimes it involves having plastic surgery. Speaking of plastic surgery, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with “making enhancements” says Tyra Banks in her recent article with People Magazine. Tyra Banks revealed that she had a nose job early in her career and stated that “We as women need to stop judging.” she also claimed that “Perfect is boring,” and that either you’re super natural or you live at the plastic surgeon.

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In my opinion, I believe that a person should do whatever makes them feel better about themselves as long as it doesn’t kill you or harm anyone else. It’s really sad that women are so quick to judge other women when we should stick together. When a woman behaves in this manner it shows a level of insecurity.

Begin to ask yourself, am I bold enough to flaunt my sexy or am I that insecure about myself that I have to bash other women to feel confident enough in my skin? Being sexy doesn’t have anything to do with your level of education, your worth as a human being with rights, or your contribution in the community. Being sexy is a state of mind and is not only something good to look at but something we all need to make the world go round. It’s called Balance. Everyone should feel sexy in their own skin and if it pays the bills, then why not embrace it because “Sexy means Business.”


About Alexis Ada Alexander:     28056061_2030163657263940_6407370457934538442_n[1]

Growing up I’ve always been the girl who fingers were being pointed at whether it was good or bad. 

I’ve always been a creator and always had a big imagination among my peers. However
being around small minded individuals can sometimes break the spirit if you allow it.
So taking some alone time to figure out who you are is very necessary, and thats exactly what I did.
I’ve always had a passion for modeling, but being from a place like Maryland which is considered a business oriented state, modeling is not respected as it should be. However, thats my passion and I will continue to pursue my desires.
Due to being in college, I took a break from the career I loved which cuts deep, but I’ve took time to reflect and concluded that it time for me to get back in the game for good!
This really helped me write this article because not only have I experienced body shaming, I’ve also been criticized and ridiculed for my beliefs in being the sexy woman that I am. What’s even more ridiculous is that the bashing doesn’t come from our elegant and supportive men, it comes from our women.
I don’t understand why many of our women have a hard time giving other women credit when it due. It doesn’t Kill Sheesh!
 Another issue that I faced along with other women like me, is the fact that many people don’t look pass my curves to see if I have a brain and I’m here today to show the world that you can be a multi talented, sexy and educated woman! So look out for all this sexy melanin that I am bringing this year because I mean business!” ~ Alexis Alexander







Poetry: The Sensual Peeling of an Orange. By Mike Strange

The whole idea of peeling an orange is to eat it of course. The bright color of the sun , the shining orb like unto the one hanging in the sky, gives promise of the roundness and blinding color of the morning star.

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As you are peeling off it’s bright skin, you can hear the soft hiss of citrus upon the tearing of the round fruit, like the soft purr of a small creature being petted. The sound of peeling an orange is akin to the din of the heavens on a soft cool summer afternoon.

The aroma of the small orb is like no other, as you slowly undress this fruit. The sending hint of citrus hanging in the air is like a scent of pleasure from a garden of hidden delight. Rich and sharp is the odor in the air as you are peeling it indeed.

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An orange being peeled offers much to the palette for the one who is in fact engaged in the act. The flavor is tangy and charged with a hint of electricity as you indulge in it’s charged like essence.



and eating this fine fruit after the peeling is an experience on the tongue that is sure to leave traces of a garden at the edge of the meadow on your taste buds for quite some time!

Mike Strange.


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Dolce & Cabbana Spring/Summer Collections Private Cocktail Event


On March 15th 2018 Dolce & Cabbana  hosted an intimate and private cocktail event to launch their Spring/Summer fashion line that was by invitation only to  select persons in the fashion industry. Of course The Elegant Classy Gentleman and team was there to sip champagne and martinis while perusing the incredible styles in their massive flagship store at 717 5th Ave.


(left to right: Jean Germain, Jessica Phillip, Mike Strange)



Being one of the first private guests to arrive, after about an hour I realized that there was not a runway nor any models. After pondering the theme for the D&C Spring/Summer Collection: King and Queen of Hearts, I than realized all of the invited guests including myself was the fashion show! Life imitating Fashion in a brilliant and intimate way that only Dolce & Cabbana could pull off in such elegance and style!



Adding even more class to this special event, there we’re very attractive waiters and waitresses clad in all black pouring champagne and serving martinis non-stop for the whole three hours of the event to all of the invited guests, as well as various  delicious hors d’oeuvres.   On the main and second floor card dealers amused guests with hands of Black Jack and Poker!


Photo Ops and Fashion was also on hand to entertain all of the guests that attended.

Also on the 2nd floor was the lovely and gracious Magdalena Llohis, jewelry designer, holding court, who’s unique and beautiful pieces can be purchased at D&G.



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As we mingled with the other guests who were as stylish and diverse as New York itself, we found it quite easy to make friends and have a few laughs and fun.


Immediately after the event we all jumped in a cab (except Jessica, she had to leave) and head from 5th Ave downtown to the village for the D&G after party, which was also a launch party for Dekad magazine at a secret location.

After arriving at the after party the fun kicked into overdrive and the “Turn Up” continued in full swing!





Things started to get a bit fuzzy, so we grabbed a bite to eat and got water and headed home. But not before we hit the dance floor one more time!


Yes all is well in the Fashion world!




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Jean Germain: Logistical Support Executive


Jessica Phillip: Contributing Photographer/Event Correspondent


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Featured Photo: Fashion Bead Bracelets by Jessica Phillip, Justice by Justine.


Neuroticism: Negative Personality Trait, or Mental Illness?



Neuroticism is defined by psychology as a personality trait in which a person experiences the world, or rather the external environments around them that triggers Anxiousness, emotional instability, impulsiveness, self-pitying, being very touchy, feeling vulnerable, and over worrying. As one of the “Big Five Personality Model Factors”, it appears to also be the most negative and “self-defeating” of the five personality traits.


Now we’ve all displayed one, more or all of the “Defining Descriptors” of the big five personality model factors, so does that mean we are all crazy?

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No. However “Each individual can be positioned somewhere on this personality dimension between extreme poles: perfect emotional stability versus complete emotional chaos. Highly neurotic individuals tend to be labile (that is, subject to frequently changing emotions), anxious, tense, and withdrawn. Individuals who are low in neuroticism tend to be content, confident, and stable. The latter report fewer physical and psychological problems and less stress than do highly neurotic individuals.”


(“German psychologist Hans Eysenck popularized the term neuroticism in the 1950’s by including it as a key scale in his popular personality inventory.”)

“The initial model of the big five traits was advanced by Ernest Tupes and Raymond Christal in 1961,but failed to reach an academic audience until the 1980’s. In 1990, J.M. Digman advanced his five-factor model of personality, which Lewis Goldberg extended to the highest level of organization. These five overarching domains have been found to contain and subsume most known personality traits and are assumed to represent the basic structure behind all personality traits.

In the most recent studies of psychopathology on personality neurotiscism is usually the first variable in considering individual differences in many types of mental illnesses, such as anxiety, depression, obsessive compulsive, and hysteria.

Biological Studies:

“Current research data show persuasively that individual differences in neuroticism are substantially heritable (which means they are passed from parent to child). Heritability estimates based on twin studies generally fall in the 40–60 percent range. The remaining individual differences in neuroticism are attributed primarily to unique (nonfamilial) environmental differences; the shared familial environment appears to exert virtually no reliable influence on individual differences in neuroticism. Researchers speculate that an overreactive limbic system in the brain is associated with high levels of neuroticism, but specific neurochemical mechanisms or locations within the brain and nervous system have not yet been identified.”

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A extreme level of neuroticism in individuals produce persons who are defensive pessimists. “They experience the world as unsafe and use fundamentally different strategies in dealing with distress than non-neurotic people do. They are vigilant against potential harm in their environment and constantly scan the environment for evidence of potential harm. They may withdraw from reality and engage in protective behaviors when they detect danger, real or perceived.”

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“Because of their tendency to withdraw, highly neurotic individuals tend to possess an impoverished repertoire of behavioral alternatives for addressing the demands of reality. Consequently, they tend to engage in mental role-play (rumination and fantasy) instead of constructive problem-solving behaviors. In contrast to their impoverished behavioral repertoires, however, they may possess a rich inner world. Introspective and apt to analyze their thoughts and feelings, they are highly invested in seeking the true nature of their intra-psychic experiences.”

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“Very attuned to their inner experiences, those high in neuroticism are also attentive to their physical discomforts. Their health maintenance behaviors (that is, consultations with a physician) are more frequent than those of individuals with less neuroticism. Although their complaints regarding health are more frequent, their objectively assessed health is not poorer than those low in neuroticism.” According to Eysenck’s personality dimension model, emotional-stability/interoversion-extraversion combine in varying degrees to produce predictable personality trait patterns. Eysenck’s third and less popular dimension model, “psychoticism”, which would describe people who presents traits such as coldness, cruelty, hostility and the rejection of social customs. Ironically, neuronic people tend to be more creative, especially if they have an artistic outlet.

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Love is in The Eyes of the Beholder: by Alexis Ada Alexander


  • Love has no boundaries and does not discriminate. It comes in different shapes and sizes. Different people express their love in different ways. It is in our DNA to fall in love. Studies have shown that it is also in our DNA to fall out of love and explore other new love. The reason for this DNA mess is beyond the scope of this writing. 
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    Many women are now becoming the heads of their households and their own bosses. So, why need a man? It is a known fact that a lot of men prefer several sex partners without falling in love. Unfortunately, lack of love for that special person is destroying many people’s lives. People turn to drugs and alcohol addiction to fill the emptiness they feel within. Many suffer from depression. It is quite unfortunate that a lot of people are struggling to find self-love. How can somebody who has no self-love extend love to another? Some people do not love themselves, but they expect another person to love them. This creates unreasonable burden for others. Some expect 100% of everything on their list for the ideal person they would fall in love with. 
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    Whether it is lack of self-love or belief that there is nobody to fall in love with out there, understanding that we are not designed to be alone, is the first step to finding love. It is important to separate love for money from real love. People tend to glorify money but then turn around and ask, where is the love? If love is coming from those who you attracted with money, once it’s all gone, people start disappearing and go on to the next. 
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    Love can happen at first sight or take patience and some nurturing to get it to happen. It happens differently for different people. Some people have not experienced love before and they wonder what it feels like. They probably have found love but still unawares of it. Work at recognizing love when it shows up.
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    Love is seeing this person in your dreams and in your future. Love is praying for that special person and their wellbeing. Love is not lust. Lust is only temporary. Love is crying when they cry or feeling their pain. Love is sitting by the hospital bed every single day for an ill partner until they get better. Love is not jealous. Jealousy is a love that died and turns into hate and envy which honestly is a reflection of how a person feels about oneself. 
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    Love is a feeling you can never control or run away from. From the time you wake up until the time you go to sleep, that love will haunt you with a burning sensation from within. Trying to ignore this feeling will only hurt you. Love is the best feeling in the world when it is from the right person. When two people are in love, they become one. The hardest part about true love is that you can never find another love like it. You can search for another like it in all the wrong places but there is only one true love. Even though many people love differently, everyone wants to feel loved. If you love somebody, it is important that you treat them in a way that they feel loved by you. Some people erroneously believe that they are not loved and then their world crashes without it. 
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    Our social media age has to some extent interfered with love. It seems like people rather get attention on social media verses love from their partner. Loving conversations turned into text messages which are often misunderstood. Discussions at the dinner table turned into everybody being entertained by their phones. This raises so many questions. What happened to the long walks at the park, spending quality time and having picnics on the beach? What happened to two people working together to make a dream come true? What happened to taking time to study your lover’s body, learning what gives them butterflies and make their temperature rise? Couples could appreciate each other just by gazing into their eyes and exploring every inch on their body. 
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    When you find that love, respect it, appreciate it and treasure it. The tendency to be right all the time has ruined a lot of relationships that could have survived love’s little challenges. What happened to saying I’m sorry and working to rebuild relationships instead of giving up easily? It is so easy for couples to give up but not so easy to stay. Nobody said it would be easy but that is the beauty of love. What extent are you willing to go to fight for your love? Recognizing that our DNA plays tricks on us and puts us on this cycle of looking for new love endlessly, is the key to working at keeping our love. Even if you walk away from the one you have now for something else, your DNA would kick in later and then the challenges show up, and the cycle continues. Just remember, love is give and take. It is not one-way street. The Golden Rule works in a love relationship. Treat your partner as you wish they treat you.
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    Love forgives, love is unconditional, love is wearing your heart on your sleeve and putting it in the hands of another, trusting that they will take care of it. Love is when your whole world is dark, but this one special individual turns on the light. Unfortunately, some people never experience this in their lifetime 
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    Why is love so important? Because we were made for companionship. Nobody can be an island. It is not healthy. So, go on and fall hopelessly in love and enjoy every second of it. 
    Love Alexis Alexander.

The Elegant Classy Gentleman would like to welcome Alexis Ada Alexander as a contributing writer for the magazine.
Alexis Alexander is an African American TV personality, journalist and model born and raised in Potomac Maryland of African decent. Ms. Alexander has extensive experience in entertainment, a graduate of New York Film, Academy, Barbizon Modeling School, and former student of Randolph Macon Academy.
She has covered red carpet events, beauty pageants, embassy events and award ceremonies. Stay tuned for more articles from  Alexis Alexander the Broadcast Princess.

Artist Michal Nachmany: Capturing Cultural Journeys Through People and Objects.

Michal Nachmany is a New City Artist who was raised in Jerusalem, who now creates wonderful textile works of art in her Harlem studio is inspired by the various colors or city streets and markets, which she feels correlates the past and the present as a foundation.


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Nachmany’s  using “mixed media” techniques, utilizes collages, printmaking and sculptures.

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Her works have been exhibited in many shows internationally and in New York.

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Some of Michal Nachmany’s work has been commissioned by Columbia University for the newly built Manhattanville Urban Campus most recently.

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Ten of her art works are now on display in Columbia’s Faculty House.

You can view the artist’s website at:

Contact the artist at:

(646) 642-4450

Style New York Fashion Week 2018

The Elegant Classy Gentleman returned for Style New York Fashion Week  Fall/Winter collections 2018 at Cipriani on East 42nd Street in New York, with Amanda Holley opening the first show for the 2nd year in a row performing new songs from her new EP.

International as well as emerging designers such as Malan Breton, Romeo + Juliet Couture, Mint Swim, David Tupaz, Adrian Alicea, and others graced the runway to everyone’s delight.











The Style New York Fashion Week 2018 was a smashing event, and seems to get better every year. We hope to cover Style New York’s next show later this year, and of course The Elegant Classy Gentleman Magazine will keep you posted.

(Additional photo credit: Jessica Phillip)

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(The Media/Press Team for the Elegant Classy Gentleman: left to right: Mike Strange, Jean Germain, Jessica Phillip)