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Now since the very beginning, my attitude and opinion on online dating was less than favorable, even though I never ventured into that realm before. Having a degree in Psychology I could not help but say to myself “do you have any evidence to support this”?
Yes, you guessed it, I needed proof to support my private claims, I needed the scientific method to lend credence to my theory. So I decided to test my theory in “real-time” and in cyber space. I used a popular social media platform to begin my experiment by joining a “dating group” in which I signed up and submitted a profile to be matched up with “the woman of my dreams”, or so they said.
After a few weeks in the closed social dating platform group, which consisted of answering open-ended questions about what you look for in a “potential partner” , deal breakers, would moving or travelling to another state be something you’d be willing to do if you met a good match…etc…etc. I was not even remotely impressed by any of the women in “the group” even though many of them “expressed interest” in my photo and profile.
Using Psychology, I decided to put forth my own “open-ended” question out to the group of women on the site. I asked all the women to send me a song, one song that has meaning to you from any genre, so “that I may know you better”, and before I knew it I was flooded with tons and tons of songs from these lonely women looking for love.
Even though I asked for “one song” the majority send three of four songs. I simply gave an analysis of each song from the women on the site that sent them, and took notes of their responses to ascertain their mental and emotional states, which was for many of them very unstable and despite of their age or education; still programmed by the “fairy tale factor” fed to females at a very young age, which sets them up to be disappointed when “real life” shows them relationships are no way near as they are depicted in movies, television, and romance novels. There is no knight in shining armor, no prince charming with a castle in the sky, no “Mister Big” who will swoop you off you’re feet and solve all of your problems. In addition, while beauty is in the eye of the beholder, I found most of these women, not even remotely attractive, in face or mentality.
But I was not here to look for a mate, I was looking for evidence to support my claims that online dating is not healthy for human social relationships, and is a breeding ground for predators (male and female), and a smoke screen for the socially awkward, and people with mental disorders to hide behind, in order to satisfy what ever unbalanced needs they are on the hunt for.
One women in the group responded to with a song that I liked, and was indicative of some intelligence that was lacking from the rest of the women in the group, to protect her identity I will call her (K1). K1 was very polite and easy going, if but a little too talkative and mostly talked about her job, but her hobbies was similar to mines and that gave us some enjoyable conversations at first. K1 and I also liked (mostly) the same music genre’s, fiction and movies.
After about a week I felt it was OK for her to have my number, and she went from texting me to calling me in a very short period of time. One night she turned the conversation to sex, and the topic rarely changed from that on her part. Soon after she started to present (after getting very comfortable) discernible mental disorders, such as OCD, Bi-Polar disorder, and even admitted to having a mental disorder in a casual conversation, but did not realize till a bit later. To her credit she owned it and did not try to understate it. Now knowing what I knew, it didn’t take long for the other shoe to drop, and out of nowhere she had a episode of an anxiety attack while we were having a “normal” conversation and freaked out for no reason and hung up on me, leaving me clueless and perplexed. I found some evidence at last to support my previous claims, however I needed more.
Even though K1 apologized to me later on, she only ended up doing it again, in which I no longer wished to speak to her on any level, but that did not stop her from sending me very long winded texts apologizing further and understanding why I no longer wished to communicate with her.
Now a couple of months later I was approached by another female on social media whom I never met in person, and lived out of state like K1. I shall refer to this other woman as (K2), I know what your thinking, “fake weed” right? You got it! K2 was very educated with a MBA in international business, but mad as a hatter and a bag of nuts! She presented a more advanced form of symptoms that K1 presented, but at a very alarming and dangerous rate, as in a very pronounced Electra Complex, and other forms of abuse and trauma stemming from a very young age, as well as a self proclaimed “seductress”, and “Cosmic Master Guru” in which she uses sexuality to lure in her prey, so that she may have power over them to feed her delusional notions and ideas.
After she got comfortable with talking to me, (yes I played along) she admitted to be seeing a psychotherapist and a psychiatrist, the one every week, the other once a month. So I knew very early on what I was dealing with, (and she’s even told me that she “Stalked” my Facebook page for quite some time looking at my photo’s before reaching out to me.) as she was trying to force her delusions and crack pot theories down my throat, all the while in between telling me all the sexual things she wants to experience with me, she was a hell of a case study indeed!
After conducting my experiments and experiencing online dating for the first time ever, I am now convinced of the overall dangers of this phenomenon in the 21st century. Now I’m also a realist, and sure that a small percentage (a very small percentage) of online dating works out, at least for a time which is very far and few between. Now for me I will have nothing to do with online dating going further, but for the gentleman who wants to take their chances and wish to try their hand at it, here is some tips to help you navigate as safely as possible.
1 in 10 users on free dating sites are scammers: about 10-15% of profiles on free dating sites are fake, because they are free, anyone, and everyone can join as opposed to site you have to pay for. Free dating sites that are larger or more popular the percentage of fake profiles can be much higher, like 20-30%. Think about it.
More than 55% of people in the U.S. exaggerate part of all of there profile: eHarmony created an infographic hat showed more than have of people in the U.S. make up part or all of their profiles. Age, height, weight, and income are just some of the characteristics people beef up to make themselves look and sound more attractive.
More than half of the women on online date sites are already in a relationship, and about 22% are married: Research has shown that more than 65% of women lie about their relationship status. Yes people take their rings off.
Four out of five women have sex on the first date, with someone they met online do not use protection: Stay safe both online and offline.
If She offers to send you nude picture of herself: If someone that you met online, and she offers to send you nude photos, run it’s a trap.
If she constantly over talks you, and only wants you to listen to her: this is a sign of a personality disorder, and should not be ignored.
Offers to “send” you money for no reason, and insists you take it: If it’s sounds to good to be true, than it probably is. She is setting you up for the con.
“Many women that mostly have a dysfunctional mind, with the emotional baggage of fear, anxiety or other mental conflicts and past hurts in interpersonal situations. They fear experiencing invalidation from the target of attraction because they use superficial categories to define the self and others as well as to predict the effectiveness of their possible relationships, ignoring the affection messages from the real people who are attracted them. All categories are just the maps or substitutes of social reality, not the reality itself. When people use categories to predict an interaction (but not pay attention to the other’s real communications, they will produce two outcomes:
a) avoiding love from right individuals, and,
b) approaching the wrong person(s).
This kind of distorted cognitions can only be rectified through the regular and face to face meaningful interactions, which help individuals find out that they are worthy of others’ love and appreciation.”
In other words, the best and most effective way to avoid the dangers and pit-falls of online dating, is to not do it at all, real life dating is complicated enough. So go out into the world and meet people in places that you never been before. Get out of you’re comfort zone and travel, meet new people in new places, broaden your scope. Who knows, you meet the women of your dreams.
Early last week as I was going about my day, I received a call from the distinguished gentleman and fashion designer Rob Owens, who first thanked me for the “beautiful article” that I wrote last fall covering Harlem Fashion week for the Elegant Classy Gentleman, in which his “Jazz Cats in Hats” fashion segment was an integral part of the very successful Harlem fashion week show. Mr. Owen’s, who went on to explain “I just saw the article the other day, as someone brought it to my attention.” As Mr. Owen’s continued, he relayed to me that he had spent some time, after reading the article that I wrote, tracking me down on Facebook to “Match the name with the face”, as we knew each other but never have been formally introduced to one another.
Rob then explained to me the reason for his call, “Mike, I would like for you to be one of three judges for my 6th Annual Harlem Derby Gala, being held at the famous Red Rooster in Harlem“. I being thrilled at the invitation graciously accepted and added. “While I’m there, would you mind if I take some photos and some video footage for a feature article covering the gala?” Mr. Owen’s response: “I wanted to ask if you were willing to do that, but I didn’t want to impose”. I told Rob that I was more than willing to cover the event, in addition to being one of his “Fashion Judges” for the four categories of best dressed male, and female, as well as best hat for both male and female, along with the other two female judges.
The Harlem Derby was inspired by the Kentucky Derby. and the black jockeys were the majority of the horse riders (13 of 15 jockeys). Co-founder Rob Owens created Harlem Derby Style to pay tribute to the major contributions of African Americans who helped make the Kentucky Derby was it is today since 1875 when the first Kentucky Derby race took place on May 17th in front of a crowd of 10,000 spectators.
Rob Owens also sells fashionable derby hats named after famed black jockeys from the rich history of the Kentucky Derby on his website Harlem Derby Style.com, which are quite dapper indeed! At the 6th annual Harlem Derby Gala patrons of all races come together in their finest attire (and hats, of course) to celebrate this amazing event for the last six years. Rob Owens who is a Kentucky native, now Harlemite (He’s lived in Harlem now for the last 30 years) has created something quite special in Harlem with this yearly event. Part fashion show, part sporting event, part social mixer and a whole lot of fun sets this gala apart from all the others in Harlem due to its seer uniqueness and community camaraderie.
As part of my duties as a fashion judge, I was obligated to mix and mingle with the crowd to ascertain who sported the best attire (and hat). Mingling with the crowd downstairs at Ginny’s Supper Club, and upstairs out on the patio of The Red Rooster, I spoke with men and women about their style and choice of hat for the event, and took photos of them to sift through who we would select for the best dressed (and hat) with the other two judges. An incredible experience it was indeed.
The Elegant Classy Gentleman team also was floating through the crowd to capture photos and video moments of the stylish Harlem crowd, and as I watched them from across the room, I could see the look on their faces as they enjoyed themselves vibing with the excitement and fashion of this wonderful gala.
Will we return next year for the 7th Annual Harlem Derby Gala? You Can Bet On It!
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In essence time management is about knowing all that you have to do and how much time you have available to do it and fit it into a schedule, and follow it so that you get the results that are desired. How do you go about this you might ask? Well first of all you have to organize your schedule, making the best use of limited time, and creating a realistic plan for accomplishing everything on you’re to do list.
Well the point being made here, is to use your time wisely. Tracking your time weekly, monthly, etc. Once you know how many hours have to work with on a daily to weekly basis you’re off to a good start. Now if you get like seven hours of sleep every night then you have about 119 hours a week to form into a schedule (This will include all daily activities). Now in order for this to really work you must at all cost avoid “PROCRASTINATION” (you know what I’m talking about), “I can always do it later, I have enough time”, “Just ten more minutes then I will get up and do it”. The list goes on forever as we all know, but sometimes we just can’t be honest about it with ourselves.
It’s all about priorities when it comes to managing your time. You can use a monthly calendar to help you allocate your time on your weekly schedule at the beginning of each quarter, and spend about an hour with your calendar to enter all important dates and deadlines, than estimate the time needed to prepare for them. At the start of each week, transfer important items from your calendar to your weekly schedule. This will help to avoid the things that might otherwise sneak up on you. You can also make use of the calendar on your computer or cell phone, in which you can set alerts and reminders.
By using these elements as well as other techniques you should be able to improve on your management of time in almost all areas of your life. The key is to stick to your schedule and you should be able to navigate your daily and weekly activities with relative ease. Now you don’t have to be a slave to your schedule, there is always room to adjust, and add new things in and around it. And one of the most important things, is always plan for down time to rest and renew yourself which should be included in all of your time management scheduling.
Now that we have explored some of the dynamics of time management, we should be able to follow some of these guidelines to create a custom daily, weekly and monthly schedule to use our time more efficiently. With just a little bit of effort I feel that we all can take advantage of these tools and live a more stress free life while going about our daily activities without running ourselves around in circles and saying, “Where does all the time go”? We all have heard the saying “Time waits for no one”, however we can make time work for us.
Counseling Services, State University of New York at Buffalo (Time Management)
Reber, Deborah (2008). Chill: Stress-Reducing Techniques for a More Balanced, Peaceful You.
Taking Action, Time Management p28. (Simon Pulse, New York. London, Toronto, Sidney)
SEXY MEANS BUSINESS: by Alexis Alexander
So yes an elegant man is appreciated in the work force but who said you can’t be that sexy, classy, fun boss chick that companies run to, to help make millions?? Being sexy in the workplace is a very controversial subject and the way women have been portrayed in advertising has transitioned drastically over the decades. What does sex have to do with it? Well, since the beginning of time companies have used sex as a marketing tactic to advertise and generate more sales in the 1890’s.
In 1942, Rosie the Riveter, was one of the first women used as the classic icon behind the campaign to recruit women to the workforce during World War II.
These ads were run by J. Walter Thompson who believed the sex sells theory in advertisement and marketing. Sex in advertising has been claimed as the reason behind increased consumer interest and sales. This technique is designed to arouse the interest in a particular product, service or brand according to one of the most professional online resources “The Balance” which is known for empowering and educating individuals to earn more, spend smarter, invest well and build a more secure future. Such companies like L’oreal, Victoria Secret, and even Fashion Nova use beautiful women to help sell products. Not only is it more appealing but it catches the eye of potential customers.
Public figure Celebrities like Tyra Banks, Kim Kardashian and Beyonce are used to model clothes, jewelry, and beauty products to help increase sells. Our daily news stations use beautiful news reporters like Demetria Obilor who endured body shaming to attract viewers. Body shaming has been going on for decades and it’s just now being accepted in our society today.
Now we have plus size models posing on the cover of Sports Illustration and commercial ads all over the world. We also have different Social media platforms who pay models such as Instagram models to attract people to Instagram but yet there’s still so much controversy. . . In a male dominated industry Women are looked down upon for being too sexy, being curvy or for showing too much skin however the bashing isn’t coming from majority of the men, it’s coming from the women. Models and strippers are bashed because of their profession and aren’t taking as seriously as they should.
No profession is easy. It’s not easy to wear heels for hours , stay trendy, work odd hours, travel to different places all over the world, take care of you hair , skin and nails meanwhile trying accommodate deadlines and making out time to eat healthy and work out at their gym. Just because you’re sexy doesn’t mean you’re less worthy or uneducated. It’s about using what God has blessed you with to get what you want and if its sells; so why not!
Being sexy doesn’t always mean you have to have sex. Sexy women and men are always good to look at and helps to make life more interesting. If everyone was dressed in business suits or worked at an office, life wouldn’t be as interesting as it is today because everyone would look and dress the same. There’s no fun in that, by the way; there’s still women who wear the business suits and look sexy in them and even they too are given the side eye at work.
According to the Huffington Post, former Love and Hip-Hop Reality Star turned American rapper Cardi B has a lot to say when it comes to women and their sexuality. According to Cardi B and the “Me Too” movement doesn’t support female hip hop artists or video vixens, after all they too are women in the entertainment industry. She talks about the disrespect that female artist and models face in the male dominated hip hop industry. She claims that if it wasn’t for models being featured in music videos a lot of these rappers wouldn’t have nice quality videos and it’s the sexy women that make the video more appealing.
So why do people disrespect and bash sexy women again?? This is the reason why my team and I covered the “Million Women March,” in 2017 in Washington DC right after Donald Trump’s Inauguration. It appeared to many people that our president didn’t have women’s best interest after the infamous recording Hollywood access released about Trumps shockingly admitting to his attempt to seduce a married women and indicated how he might kiss a woman that him and former President Bush were about to meet. He added “I don’t even wait. And when you’re a star, they let you do it ,you can do anything… grab them by the pussy.”
As I interviewed women who came to march from all over the country, they expressed how they felt discriminated due to their sex. I heard so many stories that almost made me cry, but as women we have learned to be tough and stand tall no matter the circumstances. Like I mentioned previously, a woman with crazy sex appeal doesn’t make you a whore, it’s is quite a job that most women struggle to maintain.
Even though few don’t want to admit that they secretly admire these strong and “Sexy” women. It costs to stay on top of your sex appeal which includes hair, nails, skin treatments, makeup, beauty products, dieting, going to the gym, photo shoots, keeping up with the latest trends, attending events and sometimes it involves having plastic surgery. Speaking of plastic surgery, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with “making enhancements” says Tyra Banks in her recent article with People Magazine. Tyra Banks revealed that she had a nose job early in her career and stated that “We as women need to stop judging.” she also claimed that “Perfect is boring,” and that either you’re super natural or you live at the plastic surgeon.
In my opinion, I believe that a person should do whatever makes them feel better about themselves as long as it doesn’t kill you or harm anyone else. It’s really sad that women are so quick to judge other women when we should stick together. When a woman behaves in this manner it shows a level of insecurity.
Begin to ask yourself, am I bold enough to flaunt my sexy or am I that insecure about myself that I have to bash other women to feel confident enough in my skin? Being sexy doesn’t have anything to do with your level of education, your worth as a human being with rights, or your contribution in the community. Being sexy is a state of mind and is not only something good to look at but something we all need to make the world go round. It’s called Balance. Everyone should feel sexy in their own skin and if it pays the bills, then why not embrace it because “Sexy means Business.”
About Alexis Ada Alexander:
“Growing up I’ve always been the girl who fingers were being pointed at whether it was good or bad.
Underground Porn Literature in the Victorian Era:
While Victorian Society went about putting on airs, and hiding behind fake high moral standards and sexual restrictions, behind the scene’s there was an unlawful sexual movement underground as a libertine rebellion against the (“fake”) moral sensibilities of the time.
The definition of “Libertine” is someone who cast aside the restraints set on sexuality and morals, or rather described as “Extreme Hedonism” which values the “Pleasure Principle” of the “Id” without the balancing influence of the “Ego” described by Freud, they experienced life through the senses.
(Libertines in the 1800’s)
In Victorian England a pornographic magazine named the “Pearl” surfaced in 1879 and ran until 1881 after being shut down by authorities, which styled itself “A Magazine Facetiae and Voluptuous Reading”. This salacious monthly magazine which ran for 18 months in London by a man named William Lazenby.
This quarterly was accompanied also by two Christmas supplements before “it was closed down by the authorities for publishing obscene literature.
Other erotic literature such the exploits of “Casonova” was also popular at the time, and influenced as well as emboldened libertines much like in the 20th century decade of the sixty’s, only much more covert in their activities.
Lazenby followed after with the “Oyster” (1883) and the “Boudoir”. Being sold “under the counter” the Pearl became “the first underground bestseller.”
The general format of the magazine was to publish three serial erotic tales simultaneously, devoted to “sex in high society, incest, and flagellation, respectively, and interspersed with obscene parodies, poems and limericks.”
Over two centuries later the Pearl and other 18th century underground sexual movements still affects and fascinates us today, and examples can be seen at the Sex Museum in New York and London.
(Museum of Sex: New York and London)
“St Nicholas’ Day is celebrated on 6 December across the world in honour of the benign bringer of gifts. But the story behind the saint, who is the model for Santa Claus, has a much darker history peppered with tales of murder, mutilation, cannibalism and infanticide. It’s a widely known fact that the tradition of Christmas is descended from ancient Pagan rituals, notably the Fertility Festival. This celebration, involving copious food, drink and orgies a‘plenty, fell on the 24th of December, the shortest day of the year. December 25 was venerated as the “birth” of the sun, or the start of the days growing progressively longer.
Most of us are now aware, December 25 was NOT the actual birth of Christ (which is believed to fall somewhere in July), yet in 350 A.D. Pope Julius I decreed that it would be celebrated on that date. A shrewd decision, as it combined the Pagan and Christian festivals (essentially making the Sun and the Son one and the same) and appears to have succeeded in inspiring people to join the Catholic Church–apparently the Pope’s main goal all along.
Incidentally, the tradition of Yuletide cookie making reportedly began in Finland with eight carefully cut cookies, including one whose shape (representing the power “Hel”) corresponds directly to that of the present-day swastika!
St. Nicholas, as stated above, was an actual historical figure who lived in the region of modern-day Turkey during the Third Century A.D. A man of deep faith known for his boundless charity and generosity, St. Nick established many of our most cherished holiday traditions, including the name Santa Claus, which began as a mispronunciation of Sinterklaas, a Dutch contraction of Saint Nicholas.
The tradition that most concerns us is that of leaving out stockings on Christmas Eve, which emerges from a (probably apocryphal) story of how St. Nick helped out three poverty-stricken sisters by tossing bags of gold through each of the girls’ windows at night. This is indeed how the stockings-on-the-mantelpiece tradition got started, but it’s also the source of the three gold balls symbol adopted by pawn-brokers the world over, for whom St. Nick was the patron saint.
According to a traditional French children’s song from the 17th century, three children are killed and chopped up by a butcher in his shop and stowed away in a large salting tub, with overtones of cannibalism. St Nicholas revived them and returned them to their families, hence his reputation as a children’s protector. But by what means or “dark agencies” did he use to do so? And why did he unleash The demon Krampus on ill behaved children, if he is their protector?
In Hungary Santa Claus is known as Mikulas, or “Winter Godfather,” and celebrated via an elaborate series of rituals beginning on December 5, when children take special baths so they’ll be extra clean for Mikulas’ arrival. They also put out shoes for him to fill with goodies (in observance of the “three gold bags” tale outlined above). But here’s the thing: only good children get the goodies. The bad ones get a golden birch so they can be beaten! In Belgium and the Netherlands, these helpers are called Zwarte Pieten (Black Pete) who kidnapped all the naughty children and tied them up in sacks.
Santa’s Evil Companions: European folklore has it that several companions travel with Santa on Christmas Eve. These not-so-nice helpers carry a rod (with which to beat unruly children) and a sack (to kidnap especially bad kids). These include Knecht Ruprecht, or Servent Ruprecht, and the horned incubus Krampus. It’s apparently a tradition in Germany for young men to dress up like Krampus and scare people during the first two weeks of December. So why is this “Holy” figure is always going about his work employing evil helpers to assist him?
And we mustn’t forget Zwarte Piet, or Black Peter. Perhaps the most famous of Santa’s companions, this personage is especially prevalent in the Netherlands and Flanders. The Black in his name isn’t accidental, as Black Peter was originally in some traditions depicted as a devil and others a loyal helper, but in Belgium and the Netherlands, these helpers are called Zwarte Pieten(Black Pete) who kidnapped all the naughty children and tied them up in sacks. This has caused controversy in recent years, with many regarding most of them appear to agree on the fact that Black Peter is a profoundly evil individual.
Devil worship and the cult of St Nicholas is more clearly defined in Germanic folklore. In Austria, Bavaria and Tyrol, the saint is accompanied by the demon Krampus.
Saint Nicholas (15 March 270 – 6 December 343), was also called Nikolaos of Myra, was a historic Christian saint and Greek Bishop of Myra, in Asia Minor (modern-day Demre, Turkey). He has many miracles attributed to him and other titles include Nikolaos the Wonderworker.”
Many churches in Europe, Russia and the US claim to possess small relics, such as a tooth or a finger. It is said that in Myra the relics of Saint Nicholas each year exuded a clear watery liquid which smells like rose water, called manna (or myrrh), which is believed by the faithful to possess miraculous powers. A flask of this liquid is extracted from the tomb of Saint Nicholas every year on 6 December by priests.
He is the patron saint of sailors, merchants, archers, repentant thieves, children, brewers, bakers, pawnbrokers and students.
“Why my dear sir Mr. Kringle, I would have a word with you about your hired help I say.” (Mike Strange.)
Many have been lead to believe only that what they have been told about Christmas, without questioning this yearly rite of worship of the old pagan gods thinly veiled under the quise of Christian religion.
“The Dark Side of Kris Kringle
By: Steven Heller | November 15, 2012
Christmas is not all about decking the halls and joy to the world. St. Nick’s “dark servant” (no elf is he), who goes by the name Krampus, is a hairy, horned, supernatural beast whose pointed ears and long, slithering tongue give the naughty something to think twice about. St. Nikolaus (a.k.a. Mr. Klaus) rewarded good children, but the little baddies found Krampus slithering down the chimney. Don’t worry you American and Western European kids, Krampus is mostly found in Northern and Eastern Europe—Germany, Austria, Croatia, Slovakia, Slovenia, and northern Italy. Hmmmmm.
In Old High German, Krampus suggests the word for claw (Krampen). Traditionally, young men dress as the Krampus in the first two weeks of December, particularly on the evening of December 5th, and administer corporal punishment with a birch rod. Images of Krampus usually show him carrying away naughty tykes to the bowels of Hell. How can a truly benevolent Santa allow this to happen? The old boy had yet to be commercialized into the symbol of consumption when the mythic Krampus was conceived.
Krampus in many Alpine European towns, the celebration of St. Nicholas Day would not be the same without a celebration on its Eve, December 5th, honoring this dark servant.
Originating in Germanic folklore as early as the 1600s, Krampus is believed to be a beastial creature who accompanies St. Nicholas on his earthly journey. While St. Nicholas rewards the good children with gifts and sweets, Krampus dispenses punishment to the wicked children who have strayed from the path of good. It is said he takes care of St. Nick’s “naughty list.” Why, the mere sight of Krampus alone is enough to turn any wrong-doer toward more peaceful pursuits.
The name Krampus is derived from the Old High German word for “claw.” This towering, seven foot tall, hairy creature is depicted as having bulging eyes, a whip-like tongue, pointed ears and horns atop his head. He carries a pitchfork or, more traditionally, a bundle of birch switches, to menace children as he travels through town on a pair of mismatched feet: one cloven hoof, the other a bear-like claw. Wayward children caught by Krampus are spanked, whipped and even shackled to be spirited away in either a basket or barrel to Krampus’ lair. Once there they receive further punishment until they are repentant.
Krampus festivals throughout Alpine communities kick off the holiday season with townspeople dressing in Krampus costumes, running rampant through the streets and putting a scare in the youngsters. After the children have been given a proper fright to ensure they stay on the straight and narrow, the rowdy Krampus are rewarded with holiday spirits, traditionally beer and schnapps. In fact, Krampus celebrations have become so popular that they can last for days before the arrival of Saint Nicholas on December 6th.”
The problem of Hysteria in Victorian women and the invention of the vibrator.
Being a woman in the Victorian era was very stifling indeed, first a young girl was not educated on anything but being a proper housewife and mother, and nothing else. There was very few options for a young woman to begin with. If you were not married, you either worked for low wages as a governess (nanny), scullery maid, or in a brothel. The age of consent for a girl to marry was between 10-13 years old (or a lad, but mostly girls) and once she is married the girl basically the property of her husband and totally subjected to him, as her sole role was is to be a mother and wife.
Under the code of “Victorian Morality” she was not to enjoy sex with her husband for pleasure (his or hers), but was expected to only have intercourse with her husband to produce an heir, and actually she was to discourage any kind of intimate physical contact with her husband. However the women’s fashions of the time was designed to be pleasing to the eye’s of men, yet also by design to be very restrictive for any kind of work, and torturously uncomfortable.
“The fashion of the time included the baroque bonnet, high heels, large skirts, and corsets all of which proved the impracticality of doing any task. The important image of beauty as by defined by soft hands, porcelain complexion, and dainty feet kept women in the household outside of the sun’s rays, and in the visually appealing clothing that served no purpose outside of of emphasizing an image of sexiness to men” (Harrison 34-7).
This static existence of women, and the lack of sexual attention from their husbands led to extreme sexual tension, which in the 1800’s was diagnosed as “Hysteria” which was classified as a “womb disease” by Victorian doctors, who never clearly defined the true cause of this “disease” that upper class Victorian women seemed to be suffering from.
Since hysteria was a so called chronic disease, a short term treatment was developed to deal with this affliction of females. Women would go for treatment to a doctors office, the procedure was called “pelvic message” so that the woman could reach “paroxysm” to relive the poor sick woman.
However messaging a woman’s lower supine lumbar was time consuming and hard work, it could take hours for a patient to reach “paroxysm”, so in 1870 the very first vibrators were invented for physicians to use on their patients.
Across the pond in America, a company by the name of Hamilton Beach started selling the first manual vibrators for women to use at home in 1902, and what was originally strictly a medical office treatment was now available for women to enjoy at home in private, while their husbands spend time at the brothel.