Love has no boundaries and does not discriminate. It comes in different shapes and sizes. Different people express their love in different ways. It is in our DNA to fall in love. Studies have shown that it is also in our DNA to fall out of love and explore other new love. The reason for this DNA mess is beyond the scope of this writing.Many women are now becoming the heads of their households and their own bosses. So, why need a man? It is a known fact that a lot of men prefer several sex partners without falling in love. Unfortunately, lack of love for that special person is destroying many people’s lives. People turn to drugs and alcohol addiction to fill the emptiness they feel within. Many suffer from depression. It is quite unfortunate that a lot of people are struggling to find self-love. How can somebody who has no self-love extend love to another? Some people do not love themselves, but they expect another person to love them. This creates unreasonable burden for others. Some expect 100% of everything on their list for the ideal person they would fall in love with.Whether it is lack of self-love or belief that there is nobody to fall in love with out there, understanding that we are not designed to be alone, is the first step to finding love. It is important to separate love for money from real love. People tend to glorify money but then turn around and ask, where is the love? If love is coming from those who you attracted with money, once it’s all gone, people start disappearing and go on to the next.Love can happen at first sight or take patience and some nurturing to get it to happen. It happens differently for different people. Some people have not experienced love before and they wonder what it feels like. They probably have found love but still unawares of it. Work at recognizing love when it shows up.Love is seeing this person in your dreams and in your future. Love is praying for that special person and their wellbeing. Love is not lust. Lust is only temporary. Love is crying when they cry or feeling their pain. Love is sitting by the hospital bed every single day for an ill partner until they get better. Love is not jealous. Jealousy is a love that died and turns into hate and envy which honestly is a reflection of how a person feels about oneself.Love is a feeling you can never control or run away from. From the time you wake up until the time you go to sleep, that love will haunt you with a burning sensation from within. Trying to ignore this feeling will only hurt you. Love is the best feeling in the world when it is from the right person. When two people are in love, they become one. The hardest part about true love is that you can never find another love like it. You can search for another like it in all the wrong places but there is only one true love. Even though many people love differently, everyone wants to feel loved. If you love somebody, it is important that you treat them in a way that they feel loved by you. Some people erroneously believe that they are not loved and then their world crashes without it.Our social media age has to some extent interfered with love. It seems like people rather get attention on social media verses love from their partner. Loving conversations turned into text messages which are often misunderstood. Discussions at the dinner table turned into everybody being entertained by their phones. This raises so many questions. What happened to the long walks at the park, spending quality time and having picnics on the beach? What happened to two people working together to make a dream come true? What happened to taking time to study your lover’s body, learning what gives them butterflies and make their temperature rise? Couples could appreciate each other just by gazing into their eyes and exploring every inch on their body.When you find that love, respect it, appreciate it and treasure it. The tendency to be right all the time has ruined a lot of relationships that could have survived love’s little challenges. What happened to saying I’m sorry and working to rebuild relationships instead of giving up easily? It is so easy for couples to give up but not so easy to stay. Nobody said it would be easy but that is the beauty of love. What extent are you willing to go to fight for your love? Recognizing that our DNA plays tricks on us and puts us on this cycle of looking for new love endlessly, is the key to working at keeping our love. Even if you walk away from the one you have now for something else, your DNA would kick in later and then the challenges show up, and the cycle continues. Just remember, love is give and take. It is not one-way street. The Golden Rule works in a love relationship. Treat your partner as you wish they treat you.Love forgives, love is unconditional, love is wearing your heart on your sleeve and putting it in the hands of another, trusting that they will take care of it. Love is when your whole world is dark, but this one special individual turns on the light. Unfortunately, some people never experience this in their lifetimeWhy is love so important? Because we were made for companionship. Nobody can be an island. It is not healthy. So, go on and fall hopelessly in love and enjoy every second of it.Love Alexis Alexander.
The Elegant Classy Gentleman would like to welcome Alexis Ada Alexander as a contributing writer for the magazine.
Alexis Alexander is an African American TV personality, journalist and model born and raised in Potomac Maryland of African decent. Ms. Alexander has extensive experience in entertainment, a graduate of New York Film, Academy, Barbizon Modeling School, and former student of Randolph Macon Academy.
She has covered red carpet events, beauty pageants, embassy events and award ceremonies. Stay tuned for more articles from Alexis Alexander the Broadcast Princess.
Personal Stylist and Fashion Expert with Degrees in Medicine, Biology and Psychology.